Ambivalent about your relationship?  Should you keep trying or call it quits?  

Living with this ambivalence is stressful to say the least and toxic to say the worst. 

If you’re not sure what to do about your relationship – know that this is common.  The fantasy that all successful relationships should only be blissful at the beginning is a farce.  Loving long-term relationships can have rocky starts or hiccups.  It’s how your relationship moves through these speed bumps that matters.  On the other hand if there’s constant tension or imbalance – it’s time to weigh the pros and the cons.  

Delighted to be interviewed by Cosmopolitan to guide you through this rough period, so you can keep moving forward either way. 

Here’s a few of my two cents on the topic:

STAY!

Even if things aren’t great with you guys right now, if you’ve got some of this good stuff going on, you know that this relationship deserves a second chance:

1. He Wants The Best For You 

If you make more money than bae, or you’re working long hours to nail that promo AND he’s super proud of you, you’ve got a keeper. “Your partner should be your biggest fan. Their words of encouragement, highlighting of your strengths, and being your cheerleader are all ways they can show their support,” says Dr. Catalina Lawsin, PhD, a licensed clinical psychologist with specialisation in couples counselling and founder of Psychotherapy Without Borders, LLC.